Friday, July 11, 2014
Earlier this week, Katie from Pick Any Two shared one-line affirmations for moms and her post left a huge smile on my face. It was such a wonderful post, I want to elaborate on some of her affirmations that resonated with me.
#8 My mothering body is beautiful. I was in the best shape of my life when I got pregnant with my son. Two consecutive years of running half marathons, marathons, and other races can do that for you (I highly recommend you add it to your bucket list if you aren't a runner but like solo sports). I also knew that it would take awhile to get back in shape, but a year after my son was born, I was still pretty heavy. That didn't bother me. What did bother me was that when my son was two, and I had been done with nursing for a year, I was still heavy. It took awhile to find another way (besides intensive running) to get to a happy body image. But I did find it. It just took quite a bit longer than I had anticipated. And now that I'm pregnant with a second one, I am prepared because I have a plan on how to get back in shape post-partum and it does NOT involved running half marathons or marathons.
#12 I will teach my child by example more so than by advice. This one is a big challenge for me. And I'm sure it will become more of a challenge as my child gets older. For example, I am acutely aware that I spend a lot of time on my smartphone, and I try very hard to make sure I am engaged with my son rather than looking at my phone when he wants my attention. In addition, I can tell my three-year-old son, "Please don't do that," and he'll listen, no questions asked. When he starts to question my advice -- that will be the real test. My parents raised me in a very authoritarian manner (my father was in the US Navy) and we were told to listen and not ask questions. I don't want my son to grow up that way. So I'm sure there will be lots of reasoning and discussion in our lives as my son grows up.
#19 I am grateful for my life as a mom. I'm grateful despite / because I am an older mom. I truly believe that one of the biggest benefits of having a child after the age of 35 is that I've had sufficient time to spend on ME. At first, this was a detriment, because I had a serious adjustment period after spending 15+ years as an adult only thinking about me, me, me. The first year of parenting was not fun for me. But now that the shock has worn off and my priorities in life have completely changed, there isn't a day I don't wake up and think how wonderful my new job is: being a mom.
What are you thankful for as a mother? If you aren't a parent, what one trait were you thankful for that your parents had?